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Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Happy Birthday Babe!

HAPPY 35th! A few fun facts about your b-day:

This is the 11th birthday of yours we have celebrated together.
( 7th as husband and wife.)
You are officially in your mid-mid 30's!
You are my favorite person to be around ever.
You make me laugh harder than most people.
You are one hell of an athlete-though Im still dying to see you play baseball one day.
You are a great dad.
You are loved by many. Most of all by me, Avery and Nolan.

Happy Happy Day to you!

Friday, April 22, 2011


just two short weeks ago we were in paradise, wrapping up a week away from real life. two weeks. why does it seem like its been months?

probably because the last two weeks have been good. aside from seeing the tax bill and paying the tax bill, it's been good.

it was my turn to host book club-we really should change the name because we haven't discussed an actual book in years. but book club just stuck, and it's always fun to answer the question you inevitably get asked when you say you are headed to book club: "Oh! What book are you reading?" with "oh, we don't read books" hmm.

of course we all read, just not the same book at the same time. we have tried other things like discussing pop culture, doing book swaps and pick your own topic nights. but it always ends up just being a great group of girls talking about life. we rotate homes and the host makes dinner. we drink a lot of wine and always end with "it's MIDNIGHT??, shoot I gotta go!" Thats how good it is. We can talk for 5 hours like its 5 minutes. We laugh a lot. and, sometimes cry. i love it. i love my book club girls.

the day after book club I took Nolan to our play group. its made up of moms who either went to high school with red, or married someone who went to high school with him. we have been doing it once a month, give or take, for gosh, a really long time. it's another very special group of ladies-we get in snippets of conversation between breast feeding, breaking up toddler "disagreements" and tending to boo-boo's. I try not to miss it-it always blows me away to see the handful of moms that have known one another since preschool chasing after their own preschoolers. it is so so special to see and i feel really lucky to be a part of that.

last saturday I traded in my 2007 highlander for a 2011 highlander. its another lease and it cost me nothing out of pocket and only $25 more a month. no brainer. my big brother helped me every step of the way. he helped me play hardball and got my payment down and my trade in up. it was awesome. new car smell, yes please.

this week has been a little nutty. monday Avery had a trial with a speech device (Tobii C15) here at home. pretty fancy. but the timing wasn't the best. she got off the bus and came home to find 3 people she didnt know in her room sitting around this computer. she did well though. even though she was hungry. these devices are all touch screen and eye gaze enabled. Avery does both-it was cute when we were trying to get her just to use her eyes (and when she did she would get her snack), she wouldn't wait quite long enough for the selection to be made and then would stand up and just touch it! the next step is getting our hands on a district owned device (Tobii, just an older version) and let Avery do an extended trial. this will give the insurance company more information and it should be easier to get it. yes, this will take more time, but i think its the right thing to do at this point.

we had Avery's last preschool IEP yesterday. it was a tear jerker. her teacher cried while reading about Avery's "happy noises". her happy noises are that special. then i cried trying to explain that I want Avery to be in a kindergarten class that mostly resembles kindergarten for typical kids. it was the ugly cry. my first child is going to kindergarten. that's kind of a big deal. but then add on top of that that this child cannot speak and still wears diapers. it's weird. it wasn't the plan. IEP's can serve as a major reminder of that plan being changed without your consent. her teacher cried again because she is amazing and feels like she hasn't made much a dent in Avery in the last 2 years. that made me cry again. sounds fun, right? It ended well. Im happy with what we have set up for her and Im ready to go see two classrooms that are available to her. im scared of the change; the new people that will be in our lives and on her team-the new routine-the new school. but i think back to this time 2 years ago when we were transitioning from early intervention to the school district. i was scared to leave. i didnt want Avery to go to this preschool-this segregated special education preschool-in a severely handicapped class. now, i dont want to leave it. we jokingly asked if she could just stay one more year?-their answer: "she's too tall". we laughed over that. I hugged the principal. then hugged teacher Diane. I said this better not be the last time we see you. and she said "oh no, I want to know who Avery is when she is 8." how awesome is that?

I rushed home because i had plans to take the kids for pizza at another rett mommy's house. i was so late and then there was traffic and I dont do the kids by myself too often so I almost just chickened out, turned around and went home. but i didnt. i went. and it was great. there was another rett family there too. so three girls with rett and their siblings-total kids: 9. Nolan loved being the pesky little brother to all the girls.

now i'm going to fill easter eggs for the egg hunt tomorrow. a tradition that was started in 2007. I feel another good week coming on.



Tuesday, April 12, 2011

where I have been...





a little place called paradise.

we are so lucky to have great friends that invited us to tag along with them at their family condo on the big island of hawaii. for an entire week.

we golfed. we hiked. we snorkeled. we saw a baby humpback whale breach and heard her momma nursing her underwater. we had drinks with umbrellas. we read books. we had book reading races. we drank smoothies with fruit and spinach every morning. we watched very little TV (parenthood and the Masters). we had delicious dinners at home and out. we sat by the pool and in the pool. we ran and took bike rides. we got spa treatments with outdoor showers. we sat on the lanai. we played dominoes and "apples to apples". we laughed - a lot. no one got burned, some of us got tan. it took one of us to realize that nothing can get through 100 SPF.

we tried not to talk about our kids and we all really got into the vacation groove.

just when we thought it was over, our lack of planning gave us an unexpected 6 hour delay-we used it like college kids and took a cab from the airport to the closest bar. ate the best guacamole ever -served with fresh made chips and polished some longboard lagers (my new favorite beer).

we hit up a couple other bars, grabbed lunch and some more drinks. we milked every second we could.

i cried when I boarded the plane-for several reasons:

1. mainly because it was overwhelming to be leaving-feeling so incredibly lucky to have the life that we have and the best friends in the world-and at the same time feeling so sad to not be going home to a "typical" life. (more on this in another post-no room for deep thoughts here)
2. the tourist was the in flight "entertainment"
3. they ran out of beer. i literally got my hands on the last one on the plane.

all in all, though, it was a dream. come. true.
thank you brian and lee ann.